QUOTE(dtobias @ Sun 27th January 2008, 1:43pm)
QUOTE(AB @ Sun 27th January 2008, 7:02am)
I'm finding this anti-social-networking rant to be
rather sexist.
Does
everything for you have to come down to sexism? Do you have to change the subject in every discussion to how you're being oppressed by others' free speech?
At the moment, I am not being oppressed, I am
being offended. There's a difference.
If a guy I am dating starts beating on me because
I see my friends too much, then I am being
oppressed, and I will leave him, just so soon as I
feel I can do so safely, which could very well
involve saving up money to get out of town.
If I am volunteering at a computer lab, and I am
told to leave just because I am a woman and they
want the lab to be guys-only after a particular time,
then I am being oppressed. I never volunteered at
that computer lab again. Sheesh. And none of them
knew how to fix that error where you have to run
fsck manually, which isn't even that hard....
If someone just says that my love of having friends
makes me an inferior control-freak, then I am being
offended, not oppressed, so long as the person
does not actually take any action against me. If
that person started deleting posts in which I had
e-hugged people, then I guess I would be being
oppressed, but not to the same degree as if the
person took real life action against me.
Anyway, at least I don't pretend to support free
speech, only to turn around and ban someone
who has already left for protesting threats of
physical violence, after being partially responsible
for the fact that threats of physical violence were
made against the person in the first place.
QUOTE(dtobias @ Sun 27th January 2008, 1:43pm)
QUOTE(AB @ Sun 27th January 2008, 7:02am)
No, I don't really think Kato is sexist, but liking
having friends is a rather feminine quality, and
it doesn't make one power-hungry, so....
...and the above looks like a sexist comment to me. Many feminists get offended when people try to claim some characteristic or other as masculine or feminine. Then others act like you and insist on designating things as feminine (and therefore superior), so that a heated culture war can go on even with nothing but feminists in the room.
I'm not saying being sociable is superior. I am
saying it is not inferior. I have nothing against
loners! But just because I like having friends
does not mean I am power-hungry.
I knew one guy who self-identified as feminist
and thought that lesbian BDSM porn was
feminist. I thought this was just an excuse to
look at porn. I do not consider BDSM porn
remotely feminist. Erotica, maybe, but BDSM is
basically on the opposite side of the spectrum
from erotica.
Anyway, there were some great things about
him too, and he got me pregnant. Now, he
was transexual and actually considered himself
to be a lesbian woman. Well, sorry, but I think
a woman would've understood why I wanted to
keep the baby, and not pressured me to get an
abortion. Anyway, I had a miscarriage.